14 So you must live as God’s obedient children. Don’t slip back into your old ways of living to satisfy your own desires. You didn’t know any better then. 15 But now you must be holy in everything you do, just as God who chose you is holy. 16 For the Scriptures say, “You must be holy because I am holy.”
I Peter 1:14-16 (NLT)
What is holiness? Holiness means to be "set apart." It is not perfect living. It is right believing in the finished work of Christ on the cross. It is faith in His perfect sacrifice. We become holy because He is holy. The moment we surrender our will to God's will, the Holy Spirit transforms us into the image of Christ. Holiness, therefore, is the result (effect) first of faith in Christ and secondly of an intimate relationship with the Divine Person, the Holy Spirit. Holiness is not what causes the relationship. Faith causes the relationship. Remember, results are not the same as the cause. I don’t receive the Holy Spirit because I am holy. I receive the Holy Spirit because it is His will to make me holy!
So how do I live holy? It's actually very simple. When you meet a likable, charismatic person (not charismatic in the church sense), you will find that after a while, their charisma rubs off on you in noticeable ways. You may find yourself laughing like them or talking like them by using certain words and dialect, dressing like them or eating what they like to eat. My wife is from the British Virgin Islands, but you wouldn’t know it just by talking with her. She has been in the states for a long time now. However, there are two occasions when you will definitely know she is not from here. The first is when she gets upset, and the second time is when she is around other BVI islanders. Her dialect and choice of words change when she is around or “under the influence” of other island speakers. She doesn’t even have to think about it. It’s the influence.
One of my spiritual mentors, uses certain hand gestures and has a distinct way of talking. After being with him for a few days, I find myself using similar hand gestures and using his sayings. The same thing applies to the Holy Spirit. He is a charismatic person, whom once you meet, you can’t help but want to be like Him. You want to be around Him at every opportunity. Without thinking about it, you will find yourself speaking differently, using words that you don’t normally use, living a life that you didn’t know was possible, operating in strength and power that was never yours. You will find yourself living in holiness, not because you read a book, not because someone guilted or shamed you, not because you already were holy, but just by relationship with the Holy